...there we stood in the doorway We heard the mission bell and we were thinking to ourselves "This could be heaven or this could be hell" Mirrors on the ceiling The pink champagne on ice. And she said: "We are all just prisoners here of our own device." (Eagles)

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

School Systems Full of Sheet(s)?

I am going to make a broad brush attack, so get up your defenses about isolated incidents and unreasonable parental expectations. The fact is, as a parent, I have been there, done that and know the truth. I was lied to so many times over a 20+ year period, I know the truth. I have no respect for those who initiate the lies and it is difficult for me to have respect for those who knowingly present these lies to the parents.

It's not just me. It may be, as my bio suggests, that I am one of the few who have fought back.
For those of you who want to know the truth, read with intent what this person wrote about ""the system". While those people who are not on the front line think they are clever in how they parse the words of the law and obfuscate the meaning of the words parents use to try to help their kids, those people are making the system the sham that it is.

They say humor is the best medicine. Here is a dose of it:

School Supply Lists For Kids With Special Needs Can Be Full of Sheets by Lori Miller Fox

It’s that time of year again. Back to school. When parents all over the country, list in hand, ambush the stores in search of the perfect school supplies. Red, plastic, 8x12 pronged folder with pockets, green wide-ruled five-subject spiral notebook. Every subject has a specific pencil, every class a unique pen. But somehow those itemized lists never seem to apply to my son. Just seeing the word “Elmers” used to get me unglued, the word “ball point” would start me balling, and the word “scissors” would cut me to my very core. The only thing that seemed remotely useful was the mandatory box of Kleenex tissues to wipe away the tears, so I always bought an extra for my own supply closet.

After years of suffering in silence, I’ve put together my own, more functional list for kids with special needs, their families and the staff who “just don’t get them”.

Downward spiral notebook - a handy place for teachers and therapists to record a student’s regression and lack of progress.

Nap sack - a book bag which conveniently doubles as a cushion to be used by staff as a pillow when they’ve fallen asleep on the job.

Miscalculator - a battery-operated problem-solving device for staff with very low expectations.

Number twenty-two pencil - a writing tool used by special needs children who are not the school’s number one priority.

Moral compass - an instrument that should be used by school staff to measure their degree of guilt and irresponsibility when they are not doing what’s best for their students with special needs.

Organ-izer - a place to put a heart after the school system has ripped it out of a parent's chest.

Three-ring circus notebook - a binder used to display a student’s laughable work product.

Right-out - a bottle of liquid paper used to cover up a child’s legal rights.

Bull point pen - a writing tool used by staff to keep parents apprised of how “well” their child is supposedly doing at school.

Destruction paper - colorful paper used to pass off art projects made by an aid as a child’s own.

Eleven-inch ruler - a straight-edged instrument used with students that staff think don’t measure up.

Hanging files - a place where biased evaluations are kept until they can be compiled and used to hang a child out to dry.

Mask-on tape - a roll of adhesive strips used to cover the smirks on school staff members’ faces when professing their committment to your child’s education.

Pest-it notes - yellow sticky-back slips of paper that can be attached to notebooks and letters of detention on which can be written what a pest your child is at school.

Subjective dividers - Deep-seated misconceptions and beliefs housed inside the minds of ignorant school staff and administrators that separate children with special needs from their neurotypical peers.

Scruple remover - a device not needed by many school employees, as most of their scruples have already been removed.

Make-up-their-own-ruled paper - sheets on which school staff explain why they can’t accomodate your child, usually starting with ”that’s the way we’ve always done it.”

Lead balloon pencil - tool used to write things about a child that don’t go over real well with the parents.

Low lighters - transparent markers used to emphasize the low points in your child’s academic career.

Never let ‘em see you sweatshirt - Mandatory parent dress code at all IEP meetings !

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